she:If you know what's right (and you do) on the 1st, why are you agreeing to a situation that feels wrong? A love affair that doesn't meet your needs isn't a love affair at all, sweet pea, so if that's what you're in, it's time to make a change. This doesn't even mean you need to leave: Maybe you just need to express your needs, in a no-nonsense kind of way. After all, if you've never made it clear to them, you have only yourself to answer to.
me:well said